ha'ven noun. a place of shelter and safety; refuge; asylum.
2) Worry about your stuff. Don't own anything that is going to keep you awake at night worrying about it. Use your stuff, don't let it use you.
3) Be trendy. You can never keep up. By the time you buy everything that is trendy right now, the trends have changed. Surround yourself with things you love. Only buy into the trends that suit you, your family, and your style.
4) Forget to rest and enjoy it. Sometimes I feel like our home is just this place where we sleep and clean. Be intentional about taking time to read in your favorite chair, or play a game with your kids around the coffee table.
5) Refuse to invite people over and share your home with them. Stop waiting until your house is clean enough, or pretty enough or big enough. Don't wait until you have time; make time. When we invite people into our homes, we are inviting them into friendship with us.
6) Put tasks off until you have time to do them perfectly. This is the mystery by which perfectionists can sometimes have messy homes. Are you putting off cleaning your pantry until you can get some more canisters and some pretty labels and maybe a new door? Just do what needs to be done today.
7) Expect your family to change to meet your home's needs. Your home needs to change to meet your families needs, not the other way around. Your husband may never ever stop throwing his dirty work socks on the floor. Either get used to it, or put a laundry hamper where the socks most often land.
8) Choose discontentment. Contentment is a choice. If you find yourself saying "once i have a new area rug, I'll be happy with this room" or "when I organize that closet my bedroom will finally be perfect!" you've fallen into a trap that will never let you be happy with what you've got. Thank God for everything he has given you. And enjoy what you have.
9) Go into debt. Debt hurts. It gnaws away at you and causes stress and tension. Don't spend today what you may not have tomorrow. If you are already in debt, stop. Start spending only cash, and paying into your debt regularly. Watching that number go down every month brings a lot of peace.
10) Nag your husband. Your home will never be a haven if your husband dreads coming into it. He is the God-given leader of your home and family; endeavor to treat him accordingly.
I think the ones I've struggled with the most are #1 and #10. What about you? What is getting in the way of your home truly being a haven?