April 8, 2011

Blogging, Real Life, and Truth Windows

In a straw bale home, it is common to have a truth window.  It is a small section of wall, sometimes ornately framed or decorated, that is left unplastered to show people the straw that lies beneath. 

It's a peak into the truth about that home.

I don't have a straw bale home, but I do want this post to serve as a bit of a truth window.  I want to give my readers a peak into our home. 


This blog is called Imperfect Homemaking for a reason.  I believe that homemaking is a glorious profession, and that those of us with the privilege of serving at home can and should embrace it as the blessing it is.  I believe that our husbands should be able to come home from work, look around, and believe we've done something productive with our day.  But I also believe that our homes are places to live out real life.  Real homes are filled with milk spills and temper tantrums, unwashed dishes and piles of laundry waiting to be folded.  I don't want a clean home at the expense of an authentic life. 


I've been struggling with the purpose and identity of this blog for a while now.  Ever since I started blogging, I've been receiving comments about my homemaking from people in blogland as well as those in the real world.  They say things that leave me uncomfortable and wondering if I am accomplishing my goal.  They seem to think I have it all together, that my house is always clean, calm and orderly.  That if they were to drop by at any moment it would always look like the pictures on my blog.  And this just isn't the case.

I never meant to give anybody that impression.


I am an imperfect homemaker.


So as I was washing some dishes this morning, I was contemplating this blog and whether or not to continue.   It occurred to me to get my camera and show you what my house looks like right now, and to resist the temptation to just put a few things away first or straighten the couch cushions.


It's not a pig sty.  If you called right now to tell me you would be visiting in 20 minutes, I could probably have it pretty clean by the time you got here.  With 30 minutes notice, I could probably have a tray of cookies in the oven too. But it isn't spotless either.  We are in the middle of living life in this house and it shows.


So if you have somehow gotten the impression that I am some sort of super-mom who's house is always clean and the kids are perfectly groomed and that I manage to do it all while growing twins and somehow still have energy left over to whip up a pie, that just isn't the case.  When I give advice on how to keep a home, it is with the absolute awareness that sometimes things just don't happen like that, and that although a clean and inviting  home is important, it is not all that matters.


What we are is a happy family living a blessed life in a lovely little home that we thank God for every single day.  And we are seriously imperfect.

Oh, and in the interest of full disclosure, you should know that I am totally still wearing my pajamas...

18 comments:

  1. Kelly - I've enjoyed your blogging thus far, but I especially like the "full disclosure" parts. A glimpse of someone else's unmade bed and imperfect house makes mine feel a bit more normal :) I vote you keep blogging... and keep being real.

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  2. I love this post! How true. We do put our best foot forward for our blogs, which I think is okay. But no one and no "lived in" house is perfect.

    Thanks for your truth window today. (made me feel better about my laundry room...literally piled to my thigh.)

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  3. Laundry waits, dishes wait, dusting definitely waits...

    That baby wanting to be held, a quiet moment with your spouse, a beautiful migratory bird stopping at your feeder... those don't wait.

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  4. I love this post, its great to see normal houses not show houses. Thanks for sharing. I only just discovered your blog and I am looking forward to reading back x

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  5. i just stumbled onto your blog, via someone's pin of your mason jar air fresheners on pinterest. please don't stop, as a new(ish) wife and hopeful mommy/homemaker in the next year, i really find great encouragement and inspiration in your writings! THANK YOU!!

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  6. how refreshing! I also love a spotless and tidy Martha-style house but ours (in fact we only live in a flat, not even a house) is not like this most of the time. And we don´t have kids yet! ;) However, doesn´t we enjoy the picture perfect moments even more if it is not like this all the time?

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  7. Thank you for keeping a blog. I find it heartening to read about your life, because I see my own mirrored in it.. Days of motivation...and not. Juggling family,housework,hobbies,homeschooling,can be as you say, glorious, but it isn't easy! I truly appreciate what you do, and never once took your pretty pictures as the status quo. But this post made me smile, maybe even a little teary. Beauty is a wonderful thing, and your blog is not only entertaining and informative, it is beautiful.

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  8. I'm somewhat new to your blog and came across this older post as I was scrolling through. I love that you showed your "real" life! It also reminds me of a little poem I have repeated to myself many, many times over the last 13 years of being a mommy. "Cleaning and dusting can wait till tomorrow, for babies grow up, we've learned to our sorrow. So quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep, I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep." Keep blogging on -- I love your posts! :)

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  9. I'm totally tearing up right now - thank you. I needed this little "window"

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  10. I just found your blog and read this as I prepare for a little spring cleaning. It reminded me of my time previous to having my son and how clean my apartment was.... ah how nice that was, but I also remember getting lonely and bored when my husband was at work and I had clean all that could possibly be cleaned. Well now I constantly have a chore or three on my To Do List and it's never perfect but somehow, my life feels more perfect than before. Keep blogging! Keep being imperfect!

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  11. This post, coupled with your post about a house that serves you... I think I'm beginning to "get it." I can't seem to quite wrap my head around the homemaking "thing." My own mother was a wonderful homemaker, though she never ever played with us children. Organization, self-discipline, and cleanliness, but also love, joy, and grace --it's a precarious balance. I'm trying so hard & I'm so tired. Thank you for your honesty. It is freeing & empowering. You are such an inspiration to me. God bless your beautiful family.

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  12. I LOVE your blog - you are honest and you are real. I for one would be very upset if you stopped:)

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  13. Just found your blog and love it. I was once watching my friend's two children (I am Mama to six) and got the living areas tidy-ed up for their morning with us. The then 8 year old walked past my room and said, "Oh-didn't get your bed made yet today, huh?"

    Hmmm...well it wasn't nap time for the little ones yet so, no, my bed was not made! Different world for a Mom of two with Grandma living next door vs Mom of six with no family nearby and a husband who works 50-70 hours/week! Makes me giggle now, but at the time I felt both extremely annoyed and guilty.

    Thanks for your delightful honesty!

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  14. Kelly, I've just come across your blog. You're reflecting an awesome Light in your spirit and have given me many things to smile about and put into practice... :-)

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  15. Just stumbled upon this blog via Pinterest and I adore it. I've passed it along on my Facebook account and my friends are really into it. Keep going!

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  16. I am so glad you continued this blog - I absolutely love it, love the messages within your posts and love that you have such a warm (and real) home. Thanks for sharing your life... ~Trina

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  17. I am so glad to have just found this blog! I LOVE your idea of "imperfect homemaking" and this post truly made me feel normal! I feel soo pressured to do "it all" and have it done perfectly. It is so nice to know I am not alone. Plus you have AMAZING hints and tricks and how to keep an organized home!! I hope you continue this blog!! I think you are amazing!

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